YOUR HEART IS YOUR STRENGTH



The Foundation
Originated by Dan Wile, Ph.D., Collaborative Couple Therapy (CCT) is a structure for turning the conflicts all couples have into intimate conversations that strengthen your loving connection. When couples disagree or argue, one or two things usually happen: people emotionally withdrawal from the relationship and/or they become adversarial. CCT constructs a ‘platform’ from where couples can talk honestly about their disagreements without attacking or blaming each other. John Gottman, Ph.D., who is arguably the leading investigator for understanding what makes a marriage “good”, has called Dan Wile “a genius and the greatest living marital therapist.” * I’m so impressed with Dan Wile’s work that I regularly travel to his home in Oakland, California for training and consultation. I’ll bring that same commitment to helping your relationship.

An additional facet of my work with couples is the concept of ‘
Differentiation’ (as described by David Schnarch, Ph.D.) Differentiation is the ability to stay with yourself ('hold onto yourself') within the shifting tensions of your relationship. Differentiation means cultivating the ability to ‘self-soothe’ your own hurt feelings when painful interactions overwhelm you, tempt you to angrily blame your partner, or lead you to surrender your innate strength and resiliency. It is a skill you can learn to ease your own suffering when the friction of relationship feels painful.

Please call Douglas Johns with any questions you have at 503-252-3739.


*From the acknowledgements of John Gottman’s book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.